We have all experienced the “Debbie Downer” character in our personal or professional worlds. Complaining has been elevated to a high art by these individuals and while entertaining at times, it’s more frequently draining and off-putting. Fault finding is valuable when you identify what’s not working and look for a solution. Occasional whining may be acceptable but if it rises to the level of chronically finding fault, it’s time to take stock. When crankiness has become an end to itself and a legitimate issue actually does arise, how likely will others respond to it?
Life is imperfect and for some people, complaining is a way to get or even deflect attention. Notice your own behaviors: • Are they energy draining or energy building? • Are you feeling powerless in a situation or a relationship? • What is your typical response?
Chronic irritability distances you from others. If only they would change, then you might not have anything to object to. Focusing on what others need to do rather than on your own actions avoids the possibility of personal transformation and empowerment. Turn that critical eye inward. • Identify what you would like to create • What are you choosing to modify or eliminate? • Channel the energy • Ask for support from others • Create a plan of action • Engage
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