I am not suggesting that you tolerate any and all infractions, bad behaviors and personal affronts. Avoidance is not the solution. Rather, take a stand for yourself with respect to engaging with the challenging person or uncomfortable situation.
How do you tend to handle confrontation?
What is most important to you regarding the outcome?
Notice when your buttons are being pressed and by whom
How clear are your boundaries?
Some situations are simply easier to manage. Some associates, even intimates, are highly predictable in the ways they relate to each other so that we can prepare for the interaction. On the other hand, since people do not yet come equipped with “bar codes” that could enable us to identify their personal traits and characteristics beforehand, determining a plan of action can happen on the spot.
Taking the high road is not about turning the other cheek either. It is more in alignment with an overall philosophy of self-care and personal empowerment as well as self-management. Scratch even deeper and it is an understanding and sometimes an acceptance of what and who you are reacting to. Identify your triggers. Is it really the person in front of you or is it the remonstration from your third grade teacher, criticism by a college coach or disappointment of a scout leader. Voices from the past can deeply affect us in the present. Nonetheless, when we are connected to and aware of the emotional response, we are empowered to take the lead change the future.
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